Monday, October 2, 2017

How We Wore It | Fall Floral

We're baaaaaaaaaack! I've missed this collaboration with these ladies! After taking a few months off because we all got super busy, we wanted to get back into the swing of things and I'm so glad we decided to do so this month!

Fall florals. Mmmm. So pretty and so many options! Since it's actually been super warm here in Ohio still, I opted for a t-shirt and skirt but this outfit could definitely be changed for cooler temps with some boots and a cardigan or jacket.

Be sure to check out how my beautiful friends are dressing their floral for fall! Their links are at the bottom of the post :). Enjoy!

The time on this thing is totally wrong. Am I the only one that has a ton of watches but none of them actually work? hahaha.

I would share where my outfit is from but I honestly have no idea. The top, skirt, and watch were given to me by my mom, the shoes were a Christmas gift from my in-laws, and the earrings I bought years ago. All in favor of my mom starting a personal styling business, raise your hand! {Insert hand raised emoji here}.

Jordan Cidelle
Twinnerpated
Brittany Lowry

Thanks for stopping by today!
xoxo, Chelan

Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Comparison 2.0

About a month ago I wrote this post on my thoughts on comparison and asking for advice on how you deal with the little devil when he creeps into your thoughts telling you that you're not good enough, that you'll never be as successful as someone else, that you are inadequate because it happens to all of us. I think it is something that we will probably continue to experience since this world we live in is so published to social media. But let me tell you one thing that I've learned over this last month time and time again that I've found is so important. You are enough. And it's time that we start believing that about ourselves. I had someone tell me this last Sunday and it was just so unexpected and heartfelt that I broke down in tears right then and there on the spot. So if you need to hear that you are enough, that you are doing ok, that I think you are awesome and that you are doing the best you can, you can come to me and I will tell you that over and over and over again, as many times as you need until you believe it about yourself. I gotchu, girl ;).

I also reached out to you, my faithful followers (LOL), asking for advice on how to beat the comparison rut and I struck GOLD! I need to ask y'all for advice more often because you know what's up!

I've summarized here but I've shared below some of the things that I learned from you about comparison! Also, this is a longer post. I usually try to keep them a little shorter but I could not cut anything from this one so hang in there. It's worth it to read all the way to the end, I promise!

+ "I have to remember that I am building the life I want and that those I compare myself to may not want the same life I want. Or they might, but they are choosing what they think they should do rather than what they want to do. Find the life YOU want and build it on your terms. Stay focused on what you are doing and what will get you where you want to be. You are smart and talented and, above all, genuine and kind. You bring many skills to the table that I find invaluable. And you have strengths and skills you won't know you have until you need them." - My boss at Creative Motion Studios, Natalie Orr-Andrea. #blessed

+ "When I think of comparison, I think of how Heavenly Father made us each individual in the image of himself. This is how we are, this is who we are supposed to be. All we have to do is be the best version of ourselves and that's all that matters. In the end, it really doesn't matter how others perceive you, only Heavenly Father." -Shaylee Farren

+ "I like to think about what my goals are. What I want is to impact those around me. I remind myself that I can't reach that goal by comparing myself to others and adjusting myself to fit their mold. I can't make a difference if I don't realize that I am different. That difference is what gives me the unique opportunity to reach people in a way that they haven't been reached before." - Haley Jacobs from The Long Table Blog (previously called The Sugared Peach Blog)

+ My friend Janeen Dittman said "So I just love the Alison show. One of her episodes is called Confidence is a muscle-Lets WERK it out. It totally helped me appreciate myself more. I love how she ends every episode saying you are already as awesome as you need to be. She's the best." I totally agree! I remember listening to that episode thinking over and over, "YES! This is so true!" Alison gets it. 

+ Another friend reached out and said that when she found herself comparing herself others, she noticed that she was missing out on being present in her own life and being grateful for her circumstances. She took a break from social media and started reading, journaling, and looked for opportunities to serve and found that to help. I love this so much! I'm sure we could all do better at being present in our own lives. 

+ One of my besties and roomies from college, Candace Johnson, mentioned that to beat comparison we need to we need to have a better relationship with our Savior so we can truly understand the unconditional love He has for us and our divine potential! If we can focus on how much our Savior loves us and improving our own self-love, we'll be so much happier! TRUTH!

+ Last but most definitely not least, Rylan Schaffer reached out to share his story and I cried all the way through it when I first read it and as I typed it up. I did summarize a bit here just because it was long but I kept what I felt inspired to share here on my blog. I was so touched by his testimony and I hope you will be too! 

"In life, we all have different trials and struggles. Even though I don't know the purpose of all of the trials in my life, I do know where my heart is before I've been through something and where it is after. My life has completely changed and it's because I've tried to look for what our Father in Heaven wanted from me. I'm not perfect and still have struggles that I go through, but I know and feel in my heart that I am a better more compassionate person because of them. Kind of a funny thing to say for a guy but it is true. 

Comparison is one of the biggest struggles in the world, I think. I have definitely been caught up in it. It's wanting the nicer things that others have all the way up to asking 'Why can't I have a normal little boy that loves to play ball with his dad?' As Grady has grown older I have found myself comparing more than I should have but then one day it hit me! If I focus on that then I lose sight of everything good and beautiful in front of me. Grady's laugh, his smile, his little ways to show me he loves me. How he wants to fight in his own little way every night and the infectious laugh he was would all not be there if what I asked for became reality. Grady has been my greatest trial in life but the best thing in my life and I wouldn't change that for a moment. He doesn't talk or communicate other than grabbing your hand to show you what he wants but he knows how to laugh and have fun. We are so blessed! 

At times it is hard to focus on what we have and how we can make the best of that but I can promise you that when you do, the doors of heaven open and the blessing we receive are out of this world. While on this earth trials will mold us into who we need to be so that we can be an angel in someone else's life so they don't feel alone or lost. I may not understand what someone else is going through in their own trials but because of mine, I understand how tough life can be. As a result, when I know that someone is struggling, I can look for ways to make their burden a little lighter. I use to think that no one else has a clue what I have had to go through and that life isn't fair. Well, I can say I was right and wrong at the same time. I was wrong that no one has a clue because Jesus Christ has been through everything we will ever go through so I know we aren't alone. He understands and is there for us if we let Him be. The one thing I was right about is that life isn't fair. It truly isn't but it was never meant to be fair. Christ has suffered more than all and ultimately died for you and me so that we could live! It isn't fair but he did that for us to make our lives better. 

I live and love every minute with my little boy not knowing how long it will be. I know he struggles every day more than I do but if I can bring a smile to his face then I have succeeded. I have taken that lesson into my life as a whole and try to be there for anyone I see struggling. No longer do I compare anything but look to see what I can do to help. Sure we all have our days and sometimes fall a little but look up with hope knowing that true angels live among us and our Father in Heaven is there to help us back up. Be that angel that Heavenly Father needs to help someone else around you. Look for ways to serve people around you and you will be given the strength to overcome life's trials and you'll be so blessed for it!"

Isn't that powerful? I told you it was gold. To summarize: 

You are unique because you are YOU! God didn't intend for all of His children to be the same. He has given us unique talents, abilities, traits, and qualities and those should be celebrated. Focus on being present in your own life. Be confident and be you because you are enough

Image via Pinterest. 

Thanks for reading today, y'all! I really appreciate your support and love your input so if you have something you would like me to write about or share, let me know. If this post inspired you or gave you some food for thought, I would love it if you shared because sharing is caring, right?

xoxo, Chelan

Sunday, August 27, 2017

All Dressed Up with Nowhere to Go!

Parker is now in his 3rd year of medical school and is busier than ever. Right now, I don't have any dance stuff going on, and I've been getting my Chatbooks stuff done pretty early in the morning so that leaves the rest of the day wide open. I hate to say it but I've been getting so bored! I don't know what to do with myself! I should probably like deep clean our apartment or something like that.... but I am almost to the point where I'm like stressing out about being productive and deciding what to do that I end up not doing anything at all lol. Who knew that having so much time on your hands could cause so much anxiety!

Last week Parker had an overnight shift at the hospital (hate those) and left around 5 pm. So I was left alone all night long and was bored out of my mind. I decided I would get creative with my closet and do an outfit post. It was kind of fun to get all dolled up with my hair and makeup and clothes but then also kind of depressing when I finished because then I just sat there in my apartment with nowhere to go.... hahah I'm so lame.

So what do you like to do when you're bored? Any ideas of stuff I can do by myself that is fun and not binge watching tv? I thought about going to a movie by myself but I just couldn't bring myself to do it hahaha.


^^^ Me looking into the next two weeks and wondering what on earth I'm going to do to fill that time.

Scarf - also love this one!
Top - similar one here.
Pants - old. Similar here.
Shoes - old. Crushing on these!

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Thanks for reading today! If you've ever wanted to come visit me, now is the time because I can show you allllllll the fun things about Ohio!

xoxo, Chelan

Friday, August 25, 2017

Favorite ASOS Pieces to Transition to Fall

I've been a long time lover of ASOS. At first, it started as a kind of quiet obsession where I would browse for hours but I finally own a couple of pieces of clothing from ASOS and I'm in love. You may remember this dress from a couple of posts ago. Ya, this is one my favorite dresses I've ever owned and it just so happens that it's from ASOS. So today, I've rounded up all of my favorites from ASOS that can be worn in the summer and fall since autumn is fast approaching *tear*. #longlivesummer


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What are your favorites to transition to fall? Also, if you have any tips for prolonging summer for the rest of forever? I'm all ears. 

xoxo, Chelan

Tuesday, August 22, 2017

Summer 2017: Montana/Alberta

Parker and I had 3 weeks off this summer and we spent those 3 weeks with our families out West. We visited my favorite places on earth with my favorite people on earth and it was such a dream. It doesn't get much better than that!

We flew into Calgary on Saturday, June 24th, around 6 pm and my parents picked us up. They took us home to Cardston where we spent the night. We got to go to church with them the next morning and listen to Camrie and her friends sing the most beautiful song in sacrament meeting. I could listen to them sing it over and over and over again! They have the voices of angels! We also enjoyed a delicious meal at Nana and Pumpas house that evening.

Then the Hollingsworths picked us up to go to Eureka, Montana for 5 days. We spent that time going on different hikes and nature walks, cliff jumping, and out on the lake (my happy place). It was so much fun! Parker fished a ton, we paddle boarded, and I just vegged in the sun on the floaty. I'm really happiest in my swimsuit in the sun near a body of water.

On Friday, my parents picked us up on their way to Coeur d'Alene, Idaho for some camping! As soon as we got to the campsite, they got the call that Bailey was going to have the baby so they unhooked the camper, dumped us kids, and my parents took off on the 8-hour drive back to Cardston, unbeknownst to the soon to be parents. They left at 11 pm and arrived at the turn off to Lethbridge or Cardston at the same time they received a call that it was happening so they went straight to Lethbridge. Craig started calling them again as soon as they arrived at the hospital but they held off answering saying that they needed to wake us girls and Parker up so we could be there for the phone call to announce the gender and how everyone was doing. They walked around the corner to surprise Craig and to hear that it was a beautiful baby boy! Parker and I were thrilled to be here for the arrival of baby Max as his due date wasn't until after we were supposed to fly home. He is such a little cutie!

While my parents were gone to meet the babe, we got a taxi and went to the beach. My parents spent a few hours with the baby and the new parents and then turned around to drive right back to Cour d'Alene. They arrived with just enough time to take a dip in the lake and then we went back to the campsite. We enjoyed time together on Sunday just hanging out and then went to Silverwood on Monday. After Silverwood, we drove to Lake Blaine with the Quintons to spend the 4th of July there. We loved our time on the lake and the amazing show of fireworks to celebrate this beautiful country!

The next day we went back to Canada and spent our days out in Beazer building a pretty dang awesome dam to make the swimming hole deeper. Writing this is making me want to go back so bad! We spent some time in Waterton with my uncle and cousin who surprised everyone by randomly showing up on Nana & Pumpa's doorstep. SO FUN!

After our time in Cardston, we went back to Eureka for about 5 more days spent more time fishing, more time in the lake and I couldn't complain. To end our trip we went to Banff/Lake Louise and did a hike and it was absolutely beautiful! I had a tear or two as we left the mountains toward the airport.

I've compiled a video of our trip and I'm so excited about it! Watching it brings me so much joy so I hope it will bring you joy, too! I'm by no means a professional video editor or filmmaker or anything but creating videos of our vacations is one of my favorite things to do! I'm quite proud of this one :).

Be sure the click the 1080p HD option to ensure the best quality!



Thanks, Hollingsworths and McMurrays for always giving us the best time when we come to visit! We love you!

xoxo, Chelan

Monday, August 21, 2017

Comparison

I don't think I've ever really hated anything about myself. And for that, I count myself lucky because I know that there are a lot of people out there who are constantly plagued with self-doubt and self-hatred. Ok, so maybe I've hated my natural brown hair but I'm grateful for a sister that makes my blonde dreams come true ;) @hairbymatlin #hitherup. I've never been one to really doubt myself or be super insecure. But I have noticed that having a blog and being on social media definitely has taken a toll on me.
Image via Pinterest

I listened to a podcast episode recently from Awesome with Alison that I absolutely loved. Let's face it, I love allllllll of the episodes of this podcast but this particular episode just sparked something in me. It was episode 28 called "PUMP UP: Why it doesn't matter that other people are doing what you want to do!"

THIS. I get so caught up in the fact that I am one in a million bloggers. I am one in I don't even know how many Instagrammers and I've had the thought too many times to count, "What's the point? Why do I even bother doing this because I will never be as good of a blogger as so and so?" And it's not just about social media and my blog but with other things in my life, too. "What is the point of even decorating my house because it's not going to look as cute as the houses I have pinned on Pinterest?" or "Why even exercise because I'm never going to have the body that she does?" "Why should I share my story? There are other people that are better at this, they have better things to say, they are better writers, they take nicer photos, they go on cooler trips, they are more successful, etc. etc." I go through phases where I'm really good and I don't care so much about what other people think and then suddenly, I am obsessing over it so much that I have to 'detox' and delete my apps from my phone.

Ohhhhhh the comparisons. They have got. to. stop. I can't be the only one that does this, can I?

Well, Alison puts it rather plainly in saying that every single person on the planet has a unique language. We all have a unique story to share and no one else is going to be able to share the same experiences that we can. There are a million other bloggers out there that share similar things that I do. But "they do not have my voice. They do not have my words. They do not have my experience..... Our story is the only thing that is uniquely ours." And I feel called to share my story!

So I'm going to keep sharing my life and I'm going to continually *try* to not compare myself to anyone else. I am me and that's all I can ask of myself. It's time I quit comparing myself to others and start owning my unique voice. #uniquelyme #stopcomparing #ownit #selflove

Image via Pinterest

What are your thoughts on comparing yourself? Do you have tips to get out of the rut of comparing yourself to others and feeling inadequate? 

xoxo, Chelan

Thursday, August 17, 2017

Living Room Transformation & our Amish Country Adventure!

Parker and I went to Amish Country this last weekend with some friends and I left feeling all sorts of inspired so this week I decided that it was finally time to decorate our apartment. We've lived in our current apartment for just over a year now and I hadn't hung anything on the walls except for one little picture. If you've been a reader of my blog for a while now, you may remember my plea for help to find some pillows to go on our patterned couches and something to put on the wall above the couch back in September of 2016. Well, I finally bought some pillows and put some stuff on the walls and I'm quite pleased with the result. Is it magazine worthy? No. But it's homey and I think it reflects our my personal style pretty dang well if I do say so myself. Also, I know nothing about photographing home decor (or anything for that matter) so please forgive my lack of professional photography lol.


Let's talk more about Amish Country, shall we? Parker and his cousin Cody were kayaking together so Cody's wife, Kaitlyn, and I decided to go check out the shops in Amish Country. As we were driving along, we drove past a store that had a large banner with Joanna Gaines' face on it and said Magnolia Homes. I about jumped out of the moving car and I think I scared Kaitlyn a little bit with my enthusiasm. She didn't know who Joanna Gaines' was (don't worry, I told her she had to watch Fixer Upper ASAP) so I excitedly explained that she was only the best interior designer to ever walk the planet and that her style was my dream! Kaitlyn flipped the car around as soon as she safely could and I couldn't get into the store fast enough. It was called "The Peddler" and if I could live there, I would. It was the cutest home decor store I have ever seen and I really did want to move in right then and there. I fell in love with everything and I'm just itching to go back! Kaitlyn and I both bought some stuff there and it was so fun to just wander throughout the store!

We also went to the Christmas store (I didn't catch whether or not it had a name other than that...) where they sell Christmas stuff all year round. It's MASSIVE and was super fun to check out. I'll hopefully be going back closer to the holidays. Or maybe I shouldn't..... it might be dangerous to our bank account lol.

We met the men at the cheese factory, Heini's Cheese Chalet, which was hands down Parker's favorite place in Amish country. Maybe in all of Ohio, actually. You get to sample all sorts of different kinds of cheese including different flavors of cream cheese and cream cheese fudge. My favorites were the smoked gouda cheese, the peach cream cheese, and the mint chocolate cream cheese fudge. We also had the best root beer we've ever had there. We'll be back, cheese factory! We'll be back!

Parker and I wandered around the town of Berlin a little bit longer while Cody and Kaitlyn headed back home. We were totally enthralled with this cute little place, the shops, the horses and buggies, the food, and we really hope to go back soon! If you ever come visit us, we've got an itinerary planned out and you bet your bottom dollar Amish country is high up on the list!

xoxo, Chelan

Sunday, August 13, 2017

Our Love Story: Part 12

"Here's the thing about this love story of ours. It's long. And drawn out. And mushy-gushy. And even a bit cheesy. But it's true. And I've decided to take my time writing it, capturing all the special details of those moments I never want to forget. So if mushy-gushy, cheesy love stories aren't your thing, I totally get that. Just know that I'm writing this as a gift - to my family, and my children, and their future children - and also, for [Parker] and me - so that on those days when the kids are screaming, the laundry is overflowing and the bills are rolling in...on those days when it all just seems so hard, we'll have this to remind us of those first moments when we fell in love. And if sappy, detail ridden love stories are your thing, well then you've come to the right place." -Ashley Stock


To read the beginning of Our Love Story, click here
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April 2015 - July 2015

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Parker and I didn't get to talk to each other while I was on my cruise so we went from seeing each other every day all day/texting when we weren't together, to no communication whatsoever. So Parker was absolutely adorable and wrote me long messages on Facebook for when I got back from my cruise. He even had songs I should listen to while I read each message included at the beginning of each one. It was so cute and I loved coming home to that! I thought that Facebook had swallowed up all those old messages but I just went back and found them and I'm dying over them! They are such treasures!!!

The beginning of the first message. 

And this is how he signed the first one. *swoon*

Believe it or not, once upon a time Parker had a bit of an accent and it was the cutest thing ever. It was part of why I fell for him in the first place. It was kind of Southern-ish? That's the best way I know how to describe it. 

Anyway, after I got home from my cruise we had about 3 months until he was to go on his mission so we just texted, Facebook messaged, and Skyped as much as possible. We never stopped talking to each other and learned so much about each other during those 3 months. It was a really fun time in our relationship but I definitely and obviously prefer actually being together over long distance. However, in hindsight, I think it was good for us to have had so much time to just get to know each other before his mission. So many conversations (most of which were really trivial and the stuff I said was always cringe worth. Why was I so weird????!!!) and time spent chatting.

One thing I noticed about Parker early on is that I was always left wanting more! Whether that be conversation, just being in his presence, or kisses ;). With other guys I had liked, I got bored easily and lost interest after a short while. But with Parker, I never got tired of him. Ever. And I'm still not tired of him. He's my best friend and there is no one I would rather be with.

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The "Messages Parker Sends to Chelan While She is Off Experiencing Major Cruisage" Series Soundtrack:

First Day of My Life - Bright Eyes

Oh, It is Love - Hellogoodbye

Kiss Me - Sixpence None the Richer

18th Floor Balcony - Blue October

What Sarah Said - Death Cab For Cutie

As Long As You Love Me - Backstreet Boys LOL

Collide - Howie Day

Endlessly - Green River Ordinance (I first heard this song while Parker and I were on a date and I listened to it on repeat while he was on his mission. It's my favorite).

And let me just end with this. He is the cutest and best thing ever. Can you tell I'm feeling nostalgic and love my husband?


Thanks for following along while I document our love story! It means so much to me! <3

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Part 11