Wednesday, April 3, 2019

Two Thoughts To Help You Stop Being So Easily Offended

“He who takes offense when no offense is intended is a fool, and he who takes offense when offense is intended is a greater fool.” - Brigham Young

I've spent a lot of my life recently being a 'fool'. I've felt personally victimized by things people have said or done that had nothing to do with me. I've been put off by small comments in conversations that I'm not even a part of and think, 'What an insensitive thing to say.' Someone will post a photo on Instagram and they'll share a vulnerable caption about a trial that they're going through and somehow I twist their words to be offensive. I do this often, yet when others get offended by something I've said that was never meant to be hurtful I think, "Why on earth would they think that?!!" I'm constantly contradicting myself. 

Two things that I've realized recently that have given me a lot of peace and helped me combat these thoughts and feelings: 

1. Everyone is doing the very best that they can with the information and life experiences they've been given. 

I truly think that most people have good intentions. This means that everyone deserves grace, including ourselves. When someone says something that stings, I have to remember they maybe they don't have all the facts. They're trying to relate in the best way they know how. Everyone's life experiences are different than mine so they have a perspective that differs from mine - and that doesn't mean that their perspective is wrong. It's simply different and that's okay. 

2. Everyone has their own reality. 

We all have things in our lives that are hard or things that we wish we could change about our circumstances, our bodies, our personalities, etc. And we all have blessings in our lives that other people pray and hope for every single day. So when someone complains about something they wish they could change about their life, and that just so happens to be the thing you wish so badly you could have, it can hurt. 

Here's a silly example for you: I am very small chested. I was insecure about this for a long time and sometimes I still wish I could fill out a swimsuit a little better. On the flip side, there are lots of women that have the opposite situation - they have been blessed (or cursed, depending on the perspective) with large boobs and they long for a smaller chest. Each of us has our individual reality and when we voice our concerns about our reality it can seem offensive to the opposite party. 

This photo is purely here because it's pretty and this post has a lot of words. 

So why do I share about this? Honestly, I'm not really sure why this has been weighing so heavy on my heart lately. Maybe someone else needs to hear it. Or maybe I'll be needing my own words soon (I wouldn't be surprised). I'm sure in the near future I'll need a reminder to give myself and everyone else grace because everyone is doing their best and has their own reality that they're dealing with. Let's all be a little kinder to each other and ourselves, okay? 

xoxo, Chelan

Sunday, March 31, 2019

How We Wore It | Unlikely Accessory

Here we are again on the last day of the month, finally getting these posts up. At least we are still showing up, right?! This month I left mine to the very last minute so I knew I needed to do something super simple and what's more simple than bobby pins? I've been pinning images like these recently so I knew this would be a really easy option which I needed.

Images via Pinterest

Well, I only had time for a super quick trip to the store and found some simple lil beauties - they didn't have any pearl ones or I totally would have picked those and if I hadn't left procrastinated I would have had more time to find some pearl clips/pins. You bet your bottom dollar I'll be keeping an eye out for some moving forward. 

I've also seen some fun things with plain bobby pins, too! Who woulda thunk you could have so much fun with a clip and/or pin to spruce up an outfit? 

Be sure to check out my cute friend's unnecessary accessories that they featured this month! 

xoxo, Chelan

Sunday, March 24, 2019

We're Moving!

Well, Match Day came and went and did not go anything like we thought it would. I look back at my second to last blog post and just have to laugh a bit because it's like God and my subconscious knew that I would need my own words to get me through the news we received.

Surprise! We are moving to Boston in June! Parker will be starting his residency at Brigham and Women's this summer and honestly, we are still a bit shocked by this outcome, along with a whole lot of other emotions - nervous, excited, still a bit confused, but I'm mostly so proud of Parker and all of his hard work.

This move will be quite an adjustment for both of us. Parker will be receiving amazing training but will be super busy at this program, we'll be living in the city for the first time and on the east coast, and I'll have to find a new job. While the Match didn't go as we had expected, we both know that God has a very specific plan for us and that Boston is a part of that plan.
Image via Pinterest

We'll be leaving Ohio in a few weeks to do some major traveling before we head to Massachusetts and we are SO excited for some down time to spend time with family and friends, and to see some new (and familiar) parts of the world!

We'll be going to:

+Utah for our newest nephew's baby blessing
+Las Vegas for spring break
+Southern Utah national parks hiking tour
+ Cruising from Fort Lauderdale to Aruba, Curacao, Bonaire, Antigua, St. Thomas, and ending in NYC
+Back to Ohio for medical school graduation
+Costa Rica with some friends from college
+Bald Head Island, NC
+Move to Boston!

It's about to be a crazy and fun few months and we are ready for it! BRING ON THE SUNSHINE!

xoxo, Chelan

Wednesday, February 27, 2019

Awkward & Awesome

I've done one other post like this before and I was going to link to it but then I went back and read it and thought better of it. Unfortunately, I have a lot of all awkward, no awesome posts from my beginning years of blogging. And I'll probably look back on this one in a few years and think, why on earth did I think that was a good idea to post that? But in the spirit of being 'real' which all the online spaces are asking for these days (insert eye roll but also applause here... I have mixed emotions) and documenting even the not so awesome things more often, here I am. Sharing some awkward and awesome things that have happened recently.

+ I've been going to Parker's school with him for the last three days and working while he is in class. His entire class is back together for their three-week capstone course before match day so I'm seeing a lot of familiar faces. While I was walking down the hall I passed some of Parker's classmates and said hi. One of the guys responded by saying, "Hey, what's up?". My response: "Good." Smh.

+ Yesterday I changed into my exercise clothes in the locker room at the gym and went to put my hair up when I realized that I had forgotten to shave my armpits... Unfortunately, I didn't have a suitable alternative top I could wear so I opted for the stair climber rather than my normal workout bc so many of Parker's classmates were also working out. I did everything I could to keep my hairy pits concealed.

+ Y'all know I love Marco Polo and being in public this week hasn't stopped me from chatting with my friends during the day. Well, this morning our conversation was about something kind of personal and I realized that even though I was talking quietly, the little wall I was sitting next to had another student on the other side of it who was well within hearing distance. I'm very, very hopeful they had headphones in.

+ During lunch on Monday, my nose started to run a lot so I was wiping it with a tissue. Shortly afterward, Parker reaches over and kind of knicks my lip/nose with his hand and says to me in front of his friends we were eating with, "You've got something right there." I quickly swiped it away and didn't even want to look at what it was but I'm pretty sure it was a stray booger...


+ Parker and I have been able to work out and eat lunch together every day this week. I love getting to see him even just a tiny bit more than usual.

+ We went to get ice cream last night for a friend's birthday and WE FOUND A GRAHAM CANYON FLAVOR DUPE! It's my favorite, favorite, favorite flavor of ice cream that we previously thought could only be found at the BYU Creamery.

+ 45 days until we head to Utah to see family and 51 until VEGAS!

+ I had a rough couple of days the last few days but things are looking up. I'm oh so grateful for friends and family who deal with my crazy mood swings, my hormones, and my dramatics and that they love me through it all.

+ Survivor started last week and there's a new episode tonight. I am pumped!

+ My workout today included a move called an inverted row. I could do more of these this time than last time so I'm getting stronger. Seeing progress from hard work is fun!

+ The Bachelor comes on two nights next week. That's a fact that needs to be celebrated!

Life is good. What's something awkward and something awesome that's happened in your life recently? Please tell me I'm not the only one who has so many awkward moments every day.

xoxo, Chelan