Wednesday, September 20, 2017

Comparison 2.0

About a month ago I wrote this post on my thoughts on comparison and asking for advice on how you deal with the little devil when he creeps into your thoughts telling you that you're not good enough, that you'll never be as successful as someone else, that you are inadequate because it happens to all of us. I think it is something that we will probably continue to experience since this world we live in is so published to social media. But let me tell you one thing that I've learned over this last month time and time again that I've found is so important. You are enough. And it's time that we start believing that about ourselves. I had someone tell me this last Sunday and it was just so unexpected and heartfelt that I broke down in tears right then and there on the spot. So if you need to hear that you are enough, that you are doing ok, that I think you are awesome and that you are doing the best you can, you can come to me and I will tell you that over and over and over again, as many times as you need until you believe it about yourself. I gotchu, girl ;).

I also reached out to you, my faithful followers (LOL), asking for advice on how to beat the comparison rut and I struck GOLD! I need to ask y'all for advice more often because you know what's up!

I've summarized here but I've shared below some of the things that I learned from you about comparison! Also, this is a longer post. I usually try to keep them a little shorter but I could not cut anything from this one so hang in there. It's worth it to read all the way to the end, I promise!

+ "I have to remember that I am building the life I want and that those I compare myself to may not want the same life I want. Or they might, but they are choosing what they think they should do rather than what they want to do. Find the life YOU want and build it on your terms. Stay focused on what you are doing and what will get you where you want to be. You are smart and talented and, above all, genuine and kind. You bring many skills to the table that I find invaluable. And you have strengths and skills you won't know you have until you need them." - My boss at Creative Motion Studios, Natalie Orr-Andrea. #blessed

+ "When I think of comparison, I think of how Heavenly Father made us each individual in the image of himself. This is how we are, this is who we are supposed to be. All we have to do is be the best version of ourselves and that's all that matters. In the end, it really doesn't matter how others perceive you, only Heavenly Father." -Shaylee Farren

+ "I like to think about what my goals are. What I want is to impact those around me. I remind myself that I can't reach that goal by comparing myself to others and adjusting myself to fit their mold. I can't make a difference if I don't realize that I am different. That difference is what gives me the unique opportunity to reach people in a way that they haven't been reached before." - Haley Jacobs from The Long Table Blog (previously called The Sugared Peach Blog)

+ My friend Janeen Dittman said "So I just love the Alison show. One of her episodes is called Confidence is a muscle-Lets WERK it out. It totally helped me appreciate myself more. I love how she ends every episode saying you are already as awesome as you need to be. She's the best." I totally agree! I remember listening to that episode thinking over and over, "YES! This is so true!" Alison gets it. 

+ Another friend reached out and said that when she found herself comparing herself others, she noticed that she was missing out on being present in her own life and being grateful for her circumstances. She took a break from social media and started reading, journaling, and looked for opportunities to serve and found that to help. I love this so much! I'm sure we could all do better at being present in our own lives. 

+ One of my besties and roomies from college, Candace Johnson, mentioned that to beat comparison we need to we need to have a better relationship with our Savior so we can truly understand the unconditional love He has for us and our divine potential! If we can focus on how much our Savior loves us and improving our own self-love, we'll be so much happier! TRUTH!

+ Last but most definitely not least, Rylan Schaffer reached out to share his story and I cried all the way through it when I first read it and as I typed it up. I did summarize a bit here just because it was long but I kept what I felt inspired to share here on my blog. I was so touched by his testimony and I hope you will be too! 

"In life, we all have different trials and struggles. Even though I don't know the purpose of all of the trials in my life, I do know where my heart is before I've been through something and where it is after. My life has completely changed and it's because I've tried to look for what our Father in Heaven wanted from me. I'm not perfect and still have struggles that I go through, but I know and feel in my heart that I am a better more compassionate person because of them. Kind of a funny thing to say for a guy but it is true. 

Comparison is one of the biggest struggles in the world, I think. I have definitely been caught up in it. It's wanting the nicer things that others have all the way up to asking 'Why can't I have a normal little boy that loves to play ball with his dad?' As Grady has grown older I have found myself comparing more than I should have but then one day it hit me! If I focus on that then I lose sight of everything good and beautiful in front of me. Grady's laugh, his smile, his little ways to show me he loves me. How he wants to fight in his own little way every night and the infectious laugh he was would all not be there if what I asked for became reality. Grady has been my greatest trial in life but the best thing in my life and I wouldn't change that for a moment. He doesn't talk or communicate other than grabbing your hand to show you what he wants but he knows how to laugh and have fun. We are so blessed! 

At times it is hard to focus on what we have and how we can make the best of that but I can promise you that when you do, the doors of heaven open and the blessing we receive are out of this world. While on this earth trials will mold us into who we need to be so that we can be an angel in someone else's life so they don't feel alone or lost. I may not understand what someone else is going through in their own trials but because of mine, I understand how tough life can be. As a result, when I know that someone is struggling, I can look for ways to make their burden a little lighter. I use to think that no one else has a clue what I have had to go through and that life isn't fair. Well, I can say I was right and wrong at the same time. I was wrong that no one has a clue because Jesus Christ has been through everything we will ever go through so I know we aren't alone. He understands and is there for us if we let Him be. The one thing I was right about is that life isn't fair. It truly isn't but it was never meant to be fair. Christ has suffered more than all and ultimately died for you and me so that we could live! It isn't fair but he did that for us to make our lives better. 

I live and love every minute with my little boy not knowing how long it will be. I know he struggles every day more than I do but if I can bring a smile to his face then I have succeeded. I have taken that lesson into my life as a whole and try to be there for anyone I see struggling. No longer do I compare anything but look to see what I can do to help. Sure we all have our days and sometimes fall a little but look up with hope knowing that true angels live among us and our Father in Heaven is there to help us back up. Be that angel that Heavenly Father needs to help someone else around you. Look for ways to serve people around you and you will be given the strength to overcome life's trials and you'll be so blessed for it!"

Isn't that powerful? I told you it was gold. To summarize: 

You are unique because you are YOU! God didn't intend for all of His children to be the same. He has given us unique talents, abilities, traits, and qualities and those should be celebrated. Focus on being present in your own life. Be confident and be you because you are enough

Image via Pinterest. 

Thanks for reading today, y'all! I really appreciate your support and love your input so if you have something you would like me to write about or share, let me know. If this post inspired you or gave you some food for thought, I would love it if you shared because sharing is caring, right?

xoxo, Chelan

Sunday, August 27, 2017

All Dressed Up with Nowhere to Go!

Parker is now in his 3rd year of medical school and is busier than ever. Right now, I don't have any dance stuff going on, and I've been getting my Chatbooks stuff done pretty early in the morning so that leaves the rest of the day wide open. I hate to say it but I've been getting so bored! I don't know what to do with myself! I should probably like deep clean our apartment or something like that.... but I am almost to the point where I'm like stressing out about being productive and deciding what to do that I end up not doing anything at all lol. Who knew that having so much time on your hands could cause so much anxiety!

Last week Parker had an overnight shift at the hospital (hate those) and left around 5 pm. So I was left alone all night long and was bored out of my mind. I decided I would get creative with my closet and do an outfit post. It was kind of fun to get all dolled up with my hair and makeup and clothes but then also kind of depressing when I finished because then I just sat there in my apartment with nowhere to go.... hahah I'm so lame.

So what do you like to do when you're bored? Any ideas of stuff I can do by myself that is fun and not binge watching tv? I thought about going to a movie by myself but I just couldn't bring myself to do it hahaha.

^^^ Me looking into the next two weeks and wondering what on earth I'm going to do to fill that time.

Scarf - also love this one!
Top - similar one here.
Pants - old. Similar here.
Shoes - old. Crushing on these!

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Thanks for reading today! If you've ever wanted to come visit me, now is the time because I can show you allllllll the fun things about Ohio!

xoxo, Chelan

Friday, August 25, 2017

Favorite ASOS Pieces to Transition to Fall

I've been a long time lover of ASOS. At first, it started as a kind of quiet obsession where I would browse for hours but I finally own a couple of pieces of clothing from ASOS and I'm in love. You may remember this dress from a couple of posts ago. Ya, this is one my favorite dresses I've ever owned and it just so happens that it's from ASOS. So today, I've rounded up all of my favorites from ASOS that can be worn in the summer and fall since autumn is fast approaching *tear*. #longlivesummer

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What are your favorites to transition to fall? Also, if you have any tips for prolonging summer for the rest of forever? I'm all ears. 

xoxo, Chelan

Tuesday, August 22, 2017

Summer 2017: Montana/Alberta

Parker and I had 3 weeks off this summer and we spent those 3 weeks with our families out West. We visited my favorite places on earth with my favorite people on earth and it was such a dream. It doesn't get much better than that!

We flew into Calgary on Saturday, June 24th, around 6 pm and my parents picked us up. They took us home to Cardston where we spent the night. We got to go to church with them the next morning and listen to Camrie and her friends sing the most beautiful song in sacrament meeting. I could listen to them sing it over and over and over again! They have the voices of angels! We also enjoyed a delicious meal at Nana and Pumpas house that evening.

Then the Hollingsworths picked us up to go to Eureka, Montana for 5 days. We spent that time going on different hikes and nature walks, cliff jumping, and out on the lake (my happy place). It was so much fun! Parker fished a ton, we paddle boarded, and I just vegged in the sun on the floaty. I'm really happiest in my swimsuit in the sun near a body of water.

On Friday, my parents picked us up on their way to Coeur d'Alene, Idaho for some camping! As soon as we got to the campsite, they got the call that Bailey was going to have the baby so they unhooked the camper, dumped us kids, and my parents took off on the 8-hour drive back to Cardston, unbeknownst to the soon to be parents. They left at 11 pm and arrived at the turn off to Lethbridge or Cardston at the same time they received a call that it was happening so they went straight to Lethbridge. Craig started calling them again as soon as they arrived at the hospital but they held off answering saying that they needed to wake us girls and Parker up so we could be there for the phone call to announce the gender and how everyone was doing. They walked around the corner to surprise Craig and to hear that it was a beautiful baby boy! Parker and I were thrilled to be here for the arrival of baby Max as his due date wasn't until after we were supposed to fly home. He is such a little cutie!

While my parents were gone to meet the babe, we got a taxi and went to the beach. My parents spent a few hours with the baby and the new parents and then turned around to drive right back to Cour d'Alene. They arrived with just enough time to take a dip in the lake and then we went back to the campsite. We enjoyed time together on Sunday just hanging out and then went to Silverwood on Monday. After Silverwood, we drove to Lake Blaine with the Quintons to spend the 4th of July there. We loved our time on the lake and the amazing show of fireworks to celebrate this beautiful country!

The next day we went back to Canada and spent our days out in Beazer building a pretty dang awesome dam to make the swimming hole deeper. Writing this is making me want to go back so bad! We spent some time in Waterton with my uncle and cousin who surprised everyone by randomly showing up on Nana & Pumpa's doorstep. SO FUN!

After our time in Cardston, we went back to Eureka for about 5 more days spent more time fishing, more time in the lake and I couldn't complain. To end our trip we went to Banff/Lake Louise and did a hike and it was absolutely beautiful! I had a tear or two as we left the mountains toward the airport.

I've compiled a video of our trip and I'm so excited about it! Watching it brings me so much joy so I hope it will bring you joy, too! I'm by no means a professional video editor or filmmaker or anything but creating videos of our vacations is one of my favorite things to do! I'm quite proud of this one :).

Be sure the click the 1080p HD option to ensure the best quality!

Thanks, Hollingsworths and McMurrays for always giving us the best time when we come to visit! We love you!

xoxo, Chelan