Monday, August 21, 2017

Comparison

I don't think I've ever really hated anything about myself. And for that, I count myself lucky because I know that there are a lot of people out there who are constantly plagued with self-doubt and self-hatred. Ok, so maybe I've hated my natural brown hair but I'm grateful for a sister that makes my blonde dreams come true ;) @hairbymatlin #hitherup. I've never been one to really doubt myself or be super insecure. But I have noticed that having a blog and being on social media definitely has taken a toll on me.
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I listened to a podcast episode recently from Awesome with Alison that I absolutely loved. Let's face it, I love allllllll of the episodes of this podcast but this particular episode just sparked something in me. It was episode 28 called "PUMP UP: Why it doesn't matter that other people are doing what you want to do!"

THIS. I get so caught up in the fact that I am one in a million bloggers. I am one in I don't even know how many Instagrammers and I've had the thought too many times to count, "What's the point? Why do I even bother doing this because I will never be as good of a blogger as so and so?" And it's not just about social media and my blog but with other things in my life, too. "What is the point of even decorating my house because it's not going to look as cute as the houses I have pinned on Pinterest?" or "Why even exercise because I'm never going to have the body that she does?" "Why should I share my story? There are other people that are better at this, they have better things to say, they are better writers, they take nicer photos, they go on cooler trips, they are more successful, etc. etc." I go through phases where I'm really good and I don't care so much about what other people think and then suddenly, I am obsessing over it so much that I have to 'detox' and delete my apps from my phone.

Ohhhhhh the comparisons. They have got. to. stop. I can't be the only one that does this, can I?

Well, Alison puts it rather plainly in saying that every single person on the planet has a unique language. We all have a unique story to share and no one else is going to be able to share the same experiences that we can. There are a million other bloggers out there that share similar things that I do. But "they do not have my voice. They do not have my words. They do not have my experience..... Our story is the only thing that is uniquely ours." And I feel called to share my story!

So I'm going to keep sharing my life and I'm going to continually *try* to not compare myself to anyone else. I am me and that's all I can ask of myself. It's time I quit comparing myself to others and start owning my unique voice. #uniquelyme #stopcomparing #ownit #selflove

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What are your thoughts on comparing yourself? Do you have tips to get out of the rut of comparing yourself to others and feeling inadequate? 

xoxo, Chelan

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  1. You're deeefinitely not the only one! We all do it! Some of us think we don't but we still do. Comparison is so real and it kinda creeps up on you, at least that's how I feel about it...

    For me the times when I'm the best at not comparing myself with others is when I feel that God is directing my path, and that I have a close relationship with him. Because when I feel that I am truly where God needs me to be, whether that be on a mission, with my blog, in my relationships with my spouse and friends, or basically with anything in life, I feel purpose in what I am doing, and then I can be truly excited about other people who seem to be doing what they feel is purposeful to them. Not sure if that makes sense. It doesn't take all of the comparing away though, but it definitely does eliminate a lot of it!

    xx

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    1. I love this SO much, Alice! I totally agree that when I feel a sense of purpose, then I'm happier and care less about what other people think. Thank you so much for sharing that! I'm thinking of compiling a list of advice I've received after this comparison post and sharing it on my blog. Would you be OK with me sharing what you said?

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