confidence

I used to be super duper confident. In high school, I was probably a little too confident. My mom always used to say, "You're your own biggest fan, Chelan!" which was totally true at the time. But at some point in the last 7 years, that has changed. I'm no longer the confident, don't care what anyone else thinks, carefree person that I used to be and I hate that. I hate that I've lost that sense of knowing that I'm awesome and feeling good about myself. I'm not sure what changed or when it changed exactly but I do think that a lot of it has to do with social media. There is so much pressure to look a certain way, to not post too many selfies, to have the best captions, you can't post more than once a day and posting every day is pushing the limits. Like who decides all this stuff anyway?! It's all so damaging and confusing and takes a toll. 

I've been thinking about all of this for a while and have been wanting to share my thoughts about it but couldn't quite figure out how to put my thoughts into words. And then Alison from the Awesome with Alison podcast basically summed up all of my thoughts in her episode she shared a couple of weeks ago called "Confidence is a muscle, let’s WERK IT OUT!" Soooo much in this episode rang true for me and I think everyone should listen to it! 

I won't share it all because that would take forever (but I totally could because it was all so good!) so I've listed a few of my favorite points. 

She talks about how its ok to think that you are beautiful whether that's outer beauty, inner beauty, or both, it doesn't matter. It's ok to have confidence in your beauty and it doesn't mean that you are stuck up just because you know you are a great, beautiful, amazing person. 

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Alison mentions that we need to cut the negative self-talk. I am always the first to say, "I'm a crappy wife" or "I'm a horrible cook". It has to stop! I am a good wife and I try really hard to be a good cook. 

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Another point her husband, Eric, makes that really resonated with me was to not make assumptions. Don't always assume that you are going to fail. Don't assume that there is someone who is better than you because it does not matter. It's a waste of time! You've just got to do your best!

Alison and Eric also share a bunch of other amazing tips for boosting your confidence. So go listen and let's be confident together! The world needs fewer people who tear themselves down and are insecure. It needs more confident people who know that they are awesome and aren't afraid of sharing that awesomeness with the world!

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Disclaimer: Please don't mistake this post as me fishing for compliments because I'm really not. I just know that I cannot be the only one that has these thoughts and feels insecure sometimes. It's something I'm working on and I hope you'll join me!

xoxo, Chelan